A guide from Solef
Something on your mind? Make room for both people.
Sometimes you want to talk about something that happened, or simply have a conversation away from the pressure of the day. Before sharing the details with someone new, ask whether it is a good time and whether they are comfortable with the topic.
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Ask first and explain what you need
“Something happened today and I’d like to talk about it. Do you have time to listen?” gives the other person a choice. If they agree, say whether you want a listening ear or their opinion. Not every conversation needs a solution, and not everyone has room for a difficult subject.
Start with what feels comfortable rather than every detail at once. You can say “Something happened at work” without naming the workplace or people involved. Talking about an experience does not require disclosing somebody else’s private information.
When you are the listener
Listen without pressing for more details, proof or private photographs. “Would you like my opinion, or would you prefer me to listen?” is more considerate than assuming. If you do not have time, say so rather than disappearing in the middle of a sensitive topic.
Respect what someone shares instead of forwarding their story to a group or publishing it as content. Equally, do not promise absolute secrecy or claim that you can solve a problem you do not fully understand.
Where does Solef fit?
Solef is a social app for adults. Meet people through interests or Loop and start chatting after acceptance. A conversation might be about your day, a hobby or an ordinary experience. Solef is not a therapy or professional counselling service, and it cannot guarantee a response or a person’s ability to help.
If a subject needs professional help, a conversation with someone new does not replace it. Share only what feels comfortable. Messages are not end-to-end encrypted, and reporting and blocking tools are available.
A few questions
How can I say I do not want advice?
Say so at the beginning: “I’d just like to talk about what happened; you don’t need to solve it.” Let the other person decide whether they have time.
Is Solef professional mental-health support?
No. Solef is a social app for chat, meeting people and friendship, not a substitute for professional help.